smiling laughing

i wanna be loved by you

thou shalt love thy neighbour

Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself

it's a dog day dance!

tainted love live

karma's a female

meaning something

Every worthwhile relationship must have chaos in order for it to have any real meaning.

gaining perspective

better than losing perspective...

siesta

click on my picture for enhanced beauty

to the Haight Street Fair

welcome

teenage

school of rock

send in

more girl's dancing...

add some little led zep players

it certainly looks like a party

sprinkle on some window dancin'

= the Haight street sea see

fair!

roof top smiles

it was a 3 dog day

sweetest nightmare comic

A Picture Share!

Roger Miller

"Some people walk in the rain.
Others just get wet."

Oscar Wilde Wednesday

"The world is a stage, but the play is badly cast." - Lord Savile's Crime.

"One should always play fairly when one has the winning cards."

"Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much."

flying

loneliness is deadliness is ugliness

just tell the truth

the truth in life is the greatest gift

dirty

the things people said to me @ launderland yesterday

Mille today

imperturbableness

“A women who doesn't wear perfume has no future.”

a Coco Chanel quote

because she loves purple sprinkles

when I'm living I'm not blogging

grow

up

happy dr. seuss tuesday

shouldn't you be late lunching
off of a
monkey plate, darling?

smile

pretty green freshwater pearls

what was it about her?

part II

~what are your options when your therapist admits he has
Narcissistic Personality disorder?

From: American Psychological Association

Studies Find Narcissists Most Aggressive When Criticized

Psychologists Brad J. Bushman, Ph.D., of Iowa State University and Roy F. Baumeister, Ph.D., of Case Western Reserve University conducted two studies in which they explored the connection between narcissism, negative interpersonal feedback, and aggression in 540 undergraduate students. Narcissists, according to the authors, are emotionally invested in establishing their superiority, yet while they care passionately about being superior to others, they are not convinced that they have achieved this superiority. While high self-esteem entails thinking well of oneself, narcissism involves passionately wanting to think well of oneself. In both studies, narcissism and self-esteem were measured, and participants were given an opportunity to act aggressively toward a neutral third party, toward someone who had insulted them, or toward someone who had praised them.

The psychologists found that the most aggressive respondents in both studies were narcissists who were attacking someone who had given them a bad evaluation. Narcissists were exceptionally aggressive toward anyone who attacked or offended them, yet when they received praise, their level of aggression was not out of the ordinary. In both studies, self-esteem was not related to aggression, suggesting that the relationship between self-esteem and aggressive behavior is small at best.

The researchers assert that people with high self-esteem are a heterogeneous group that may be more different than alike since high self-esteem can be an accurate appreciation of one's good traits, or it may be a highly doubtful sense of personal superiority that is not reality-based. While some individuals with high self-esteem are largely unaffected by feedback, others may require frequent confirmation and validation of their favorable self-image by others. Thus the psychologists assert that differences in the validity of individuals' self-esteem undermines its usefulness as a predictor of aggression. (imagine when your therapist is a self-admitted/diagnosed narcissist...?)

The authors suggest that aggression by narcissists is an interpersonally meaningful and specific response to an ego threat. "Narcissists mainly want to punish or defeat someone who has threatened their highly favorable views of themselves," the authors note. "People who are preoccupied with validating a grandiose self-image apparently find criticism highly upsetting and lash out against the source of it."

Article: "Threatened Egotism, Narcissism, Self-Esteem, and Direct and Misplaced Aggression: Does Self-Love or Self-Hate Lead to Violence?" by Brad J. Bushman, Ph.D., Iowa State University and Roy F. Baumeister, Ph.D., Case Western Reserve University, in Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Vol. 75, No. 1.

(Full Text available from the APA Public Affairs Office)

Brad J. Bushman, Ph.D. via e-mail (bushman@iastate.edu)

starstalker

with aplomb

so I've noticed...

voyeur

Voyeuristic practices may take a number of forms but their characteristic feature is that the voyeur does not directly interact with the object of their voyeurism (often unaware that they are being observed), instead observing the act from a distance by peeping through an opening or scaling a wall in union square and videotaping ummm me.

no spitting allowed

and Jane came tumbling after