Mille today

imperturbableness

“A women who doesn't wear perfume has no future.”

a Coco Chanel quote

because she loves purple sprinkles

when I'm living I'm not blogging

grow

up

happy dr. seuss tuesday

shouldn't you be late lunching
off of a
monkey plate, darling?

smile

pretty green freshwater pearls

what was it about her?

part II

~what are your options when your therapist admits he has
Narcissistic Personality disorder?

From: American Psychological Association

Studies Find Narcissists Most Aggressive When Criticized

Psychologists Brad J. Bushman, Ph.D., of Iowa State University and Roy F. Baumeister, Ph.D., of Case Western Reserve University conducted two studies in which they explored the connection between narcissism, negative interpersonal feedback, and aggression in 540 undergraduate students. Narcissists, according to the authors, are emotionally invested in establishing their superiority, yet while they care passionately about being superior to others, they are not convinced that they have achieved this superiority. While high self-esteem entails thinking well of oneself, narcissism involves passionately wanting to think well of oneself. In both studies, narcissism and self-esteem were measured, and participants were given an opportunity to act aggressively toward a neutral third party, toward someone who had insulted them, or toward someone who had praised them.

The psychologists found that the most aggressive respondents in both studies were narcissists who were attacking someone who had given them a bad evaluation. Narcissists were exceptionally aggressive toward anyone who attacked or offended them, yet when they received praise, their level of aggression was not out of the ordinary. In both studies, self-esteem was not related to aggression, suggesting that the relationship between self-esteem and aggressive behavior is small at best.

The researchers assert that people with high self-esteem are a heterogeneous group that may be more different than alike since high self-esteem can be an accurate appreciation of one's good traits, or it may be a highly doubtful sense of personal superiority that is not reality-based. While some individuals with high self-esteem are largely unaffected by feedback, others may require frequent confirmation and validation of their favorable self-image by others. Thus the psychologists assert that differences in the validity of individuals' self-esteem undermines its usefulness as a predictor of aggression. (imagine when your therapist is a self-admitted/diagnosed narcissist...?)

The authors suggest that aggression by narcissists is an interpersonally meaningful and specific response to an ego threat. "Narcissists mainly want to punish or defeat someone who has threatened their highly favorable views of themselves," the authors note. "People who are preoccupied with validating a grandiose self-image apparently find criticism highly upsetting and lash out against the source of it."

Article: "Threatened Egotism, Narcissism, Self-Esteem, and Direct and Misplaced Aggression: Does Self-Love or Self-Hate Lead to Violence?" by Brad J. Bushman, Ph.D., Iowa State University and Roy F. Baumeister, Ph.D., Case Western Reserve University, in Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Vol. 75, No. 1.

(Full Text available from the APA Public Affairs Office)

Brad J. Bushman, Ph.D. via e-mail (bushman@iastate.edu)

starstalker

with aplomb

so I've noticed...

voyeur

Voyeuristic practices may take a number of forms but their characteristic feature is that the voyeur does not directly interact with the object of their voyeurism (often unaware that they are being observed), instead observing the act from a distance by peeping through an opening or scaling a wall in union square and videotaping ummm me.

no spitting allowed

and Jane came tumbling after

help is on the way

take your picture

man or mouse

anything can happen

Oscar Wilde Wednesday

"Illusion is the first of all pleasures."


"Genius is born--not paid."

"Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative."

Oscar Wilde

cognitive dissonance

when 2 become one

happy dr seuss tuesday again

101

above it all

great big bunny egg

~found outside at
The Terrace

because nothing bad can ever happen

@ the Ritz darling... the staff will simply not allow it!

it's a bunny tie

Great Dane

oh you beautiful girl

Have you ever had a meaningful conversation with a plant?

Have you ever talked to a plant? Do you talk to animals? Have you ever had a meaningful conversation with either? Do you hear voices in your head? Have you ever talked to those little voices? Do you enjoy setting fire to things? If so, do you prefer them to be alive? Do you check under your bed before you go to sleep? Do you blow on your food after it has fallen on the floor? Do you? Do you ever talk in silly voices? While alone? Do you understand quantum mechanics?

Perhaps Love @ SF International Film Fest?

Yu guo. Oi
Big Nights
Hong Kong, 2005, 106 minutes

love apple

Coco

•How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone. Chanel

everything but the kitchen sink

one theory

"Since everything is in our heads, we had better not lose them."
(Coco Chanel)

you probably think...

Excessive pride in one's appearance or accomplishments; conceit.
Lack of usefulness, worth, or effect; worthlessness...
is the meaning of;
* vanity?

trust

a bunny abundance reply

earthquake ready?

too much pink

dr. seuss tuesday attire

What to do when you are experiencing pink recycling panic?

mickey butt

come over here you wascally wabbit!

the only place to call

Paris au Printemps

When it's time to kick some bunny butt...

why not do it the way the French do it?

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